Sell or Stay

Question: As a single woman in her thirties, I am struggling to run my flat ("apartment" to Americans). The bills, the mortgage, etc. actually outweigh my income. Previously I have acted like an ostrich, burying my head in the sand to the reality. Now I realize that I must sell up or give away some of my possessions. I feel--because I lived in the flat with my ex-partner who left two years ago and married another girl very quickly afterward--that I am not moving on emotionally. The flat has so many happy and unhappy memories centered around it.

I feel I need to start over, yet my friends say I am being foolish considering it. They say I am set up (with all my household possessions, etc) and that starting over would cost so much money. But I feel that it would be a price worth paying. I don't earn a good salary, but just to get away, I feel it would give me a broader perspective. I could use some personal coaching on decision making. Would you help me to decide whether to stay or sell up and a begin a fresh start?

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Answer: Hello dear one! Thank you for bringing forth your question. Alana feels that you are at a crossroad. In other words, you have many possibilities ahead and you are at a time in your life for new choices. Alana senses that this may be a useful time to examine the available possibilities. Ask yourself which direction would excite you the most. Discern which options would bring the most vitality, energy, and anticipation. You might receive some keys or clues about what direction may be the most fulfilling for you.

You could look at the possibility of staying there and perhaps increase your belief in abundance. By doing this, you may increase your ability to attract a roommate (if that is something in which you're interested) and maybe even create a raise in your salary. If you make a choice to stay, you could perhaps redecorate or clear the energy so that it feels fresh and new for you. Sometimes painting and redecorating can do wonders and can create a whole new vibration.

However, Alana does get a sense within you that you are seeking a type of simplicity in your life. Perhaps, if you chose a direction that will help you simplify, possible new energies may open for you. You see when we allow something to leave our life, or when we let go of something, this creates a void in energy. In other words, it creates a space. What happens next is this space has to be filled. Therefore, a space for new occurrences in your life is created. Alana senses that this is where your nature is leaning. By creating this kind of change, if you were to sell up as you say, possibilities for you to take your monetary gain and new resources could help you redirect your life in a new way.

Also, ask yourself if you are living in an area where you have great delight. Sometimes people outgrow the vibration of where they currently live. They are needing, desiring, or moving toward creating a whole new energy in their life. When you make a change in your environment, you invite a new energy into your life. A long distance move, and sometimes just a short move, can do this. So, ask yourself again, "What would bring me the greatest delight?" And, "What would hold the most promise of opportunity and begin to move me in that direction?"

Also, examine your views of abundance. Begin to listen to your thoughts more and hear if you are basing your thoughts on just getting by or if your thoughts are ready to behold and embrace greater possibilities. In other words, are you ready to open and allow the universe to bring you more abundance, more possibilities, and more treasures? If so, begin to turn towards thoughts that evoke these possibilities. Begin to see abundance around you. Begin to embrace these images as possibilities that can enter your life. 

Thank you dear one for your delightful question. Alana hopes that this gives you some guidance and possibly some encouragement to follow your dreams.

--Alana

 

 

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By Mary S.
2009-10-21 17:18:01
 

I would think about renting the apartment out before selling. That way you could find a job in a new town and rent or share an apartment with others. This would provide you with change and you would still have the security of selling your apartment after you find your dream. I have been able to do this myself. I lived in England, raised money to buy an apartment in France, rented the home in England and have never looked back.

 
By M.J.
2009-10-21 17:20:20
 

That Lady has to come out about likes and dislikes, she should not take any hasty decision, I have seen Ladies in India they never lose Hope, More ever she not on the road, she has property she can do miracles. But she should not waste time.

 
By R.
2009-10-21 17:22:21
 

I have a question relating to love and my personal belief or disbelief regarding it. I hope my doubts can be removed. I have been bombarded from all sources including family, friends, networking sites, etc., regarding the idea of "settling down" with the "best suited" person and accepting and "learning to love" the person as time goes on. This seems fair enough, however I have always had this inner feeling that someone special exists for me and I will know it when I find that person. The only problem is I haven't found that person so far, though I have found love and unfortunately circumstances did not let me take it forward. However, I haven't given up on love, but I am in my mid-30s currently and falling in line with societal beliefs and my ticking biological clock, I wonder whether I should continue to believe that inner voice or assume that it is just a "fear" that is preventing me from accepting the final step towards settling down. Is there something I am doing that is blocking the flow of my soul mate towards me or is it just an illusion that everyone really does have a soul mate?

 
By Ayejay
2009-10-24 19:02:33
 

Before she makes any changes about her apartment situation, she should perhaps change her own frame of mind. She seems very lost and alone. She needs to start believing in herself again.

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