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Dear Alana, I've been in love with my man who I believe is my soul mate. He has left me even though he loves me to concentrate on his studies and career. We are both in 12th grade and really need to work hard. I know very well that he loves me and no one needs to teach me that we are soul mates. It has been 7 months and we haven't spoken, but the emotional connection remains and I have a feeling we are going to end up together. It is an awkward situation. I can't describe how we both love each other and every aspect of our lives supports us. We are both emotional and romantic, serious about our lives, and have similar backgrounds, but we are trying to forget each other for a while. It's for our good, because he has high ambitions which he needs to focus on. My question is that I'm inconsolable, even after I came to know that he loves me more than anything else and all I have to do is wait, and give us the time to grow up. We love and are single all the same. I have become spiritual and withdrawn, unlike what I was before. He is not allowed to mingle until he proves himself to the family, and I have no one I can tell or share that I miss him, or rather I don't need to. I know and he knows. I really don't need to share it. I'm in a situation where i know I'm committed but there is no material proof. It's totally spiritual and emotional and any practical person would tell me to move on. I'm finding it hard to wait and the efficiency of my work has reduced, but I'm not giving up on that if I studied four hrs before I study 10 hrs now. But I'm still afraid and really need some optimistic advice. I know exactly what I need to do-work and let him focus on his, and wait for the right time. I only want to know how to get through this. Later in life I shouldn't regret wasting time and pondering over our relationship which would succeed anyway. How do I get through this Alana?

Dear Alana, I hope you can give me some insight into understanding this more. I have met this man who I feel is a soul mate. We are not in contact anymore due to some complexities on his side. The spark was no doubt there and I think he realized this too but was so overwhelmed with this feeling that he had played it off as nothing. Could you tell me what kind of soul mate he is? Is he a companion or friend soul mate? And what are we learning from each other in this life time? Many thanks.

Hi, I am not sure but my heart is telling me that he is indeed my soul mate. We have been friends for almost five years now and our friendship is closer and stronger than ever. I have confessed to him about three years ago. He knew about it but he never gave me any answers. What amazes me is that we have stayed friends for so long. Now, we tell each other everything. Sometimes I even talked about my previous crush on him with him. What he doesn't know was that I am still deeply in love with him. There's this unexplainable chemistry between us. I'm not sure if he feels the same way about me. He admitted that we are somewhat like soul mates and if I were a guy, we would be best buddies in the world now. Recently I mentioned about my crush on him and he asked if that was in the past. I told him that "you will never know.." And he replied, "Well, if you still like me. Er... Thanks." Does he like me? I don't want to ruin our friendship by making things more awkward for us. He is someone special to me and I really like him. Thanks.

Dear Alana, I believe I met my soul mate, although we actually haven't met yet in person, just corresponding for three months. I have been drawn to him since day one, and we have everything in common, more than I have had with anyone. I feel a very deep connection. We have never discussed relationship possibilities, but I feel there's something there. Do you think he is my soul mate?

Hi Valerie, you may need to make the choice of asking him outright where your relationship stands as far as he is concerned. There is no real way to know without asking. Since you have done this before but did not ask for clarification, you may just ask him for a more in depth answer and relay to him that he is very important to you and you value your relationship.

Hi Alana. I need to know whether I found my soul mate, or not. I have been with this guy for 5 years. We have a daughter together. I just recently found out my previous love from 7 years ago is still in love with me and talking about it makes him breakdown. Could he be my Soul mate over my current man? I'm confused about what to do here. I love both these men so much. I can't just let the love of my first love die away. I have always loved him, and wish I was with him more then my current boyfriend. Can you help me out?

Hello Alana, I am sure that I have met my soul mate. We have enjoyed each others company on several occasions and clicked instantly when we first met. He is a Taurus and I am a Cancer. We speak freely and openly to each other and honestly well on my part anyway. I trust him completely and have no awkward or un-nerving tendencies towards him, as I have had with other guys in my past. He is older and that does not bother me at all. We live apart and have been seeing each other for two months. I would love this to go further than this but am at a lost what to do next.I continue to be patient and am willing to wait for him.Please any advice would be better than nothing,he is 49 and i am wondering if he is being caustious,or just want to be friends . When we are alone together he comes across as being caring/loving and sometimes possessive and jealous at the same time.I am a fun happy person who enjoys life to the fullest and he likes to stay home.Am not looking to change him am happy with the way he is. Please help am stuck for answers?

Hello Alana, I am a Taurus/Gemini woman and last year in October 2008, I met the man of my dreams. We met online and Nate seemed to be everything that I was looking for in a man. The problem is, because he is so detached and aloof, I took that to mean he was not all that interested, even though he said he was. I was still dating others and even started to hang with my ex again. Just as friends. I feel that Nate is my soul mate, I am not sure though. We have not spoken in months and a lot of it is because I pulled away and started to be just as distant and aloof as he was. It seemed to backfire. All of a sudden every 3-4 weeks there is a new woman at his house. I know, because I live right across the street from him. It hurts to see a new car parked overnight in his driveway. What should I do, I sent him a text asking if I could come by, he never responded. I feel he is the one. Is he? When we first met, we talked on the phone for 8 hours and our date the next day lasted 7 hours, we share so many similar interests. Did I mess up my opportunity? What can I do to make him come back to me?

Hi Alana, I have been in a relationship for a little over five years now, but still feel that there is that special something that is missing. To me it feels that perhaps we are just more on a friendship level, and in my heart I know that there is a potential someone out there for me on the level that I am after and that will complete this emotional void that is missing from my life. I guess I am wondering whether you can give me any insight, information, or suggestions as to where my soul mate is and how long it will be before we connect with each other? Perhaps I have already met him.

Dear, Alana I met a man two years ago and our relationship continues the same. I feel there is more intimacy in our relationship than before and we both cannot stay a day without talking to each other. We share very common interests and activities. My worry is he is ten years younger than I am, and I have two children. He never introduced me to his friends or family, and he is not proposing. How will I know if he is my soul mate. I feel that he is my soul mate. He is really concerned about me.