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Dear Alana, I've been in love with my man who I believe is my soul mate. He has left me even though he loves me to concentrate on his studies and career. We are both in 12th grade and really need to work hard. I know very well that he loves me and no one needs to teach me that we are soul mates. It has been 7 months and we haven't spoken, but the emotional connection remains and I have a feeling we are going to end up together. It is an awkward situation. I can't describe how we both love each other and every aspect of our lives supports us. We are both emotional and romantic, serious about our lives, and have similar backgrounds, but we are trying to forget each other for a while. It's for our good, because he has high ambitions which he needs to focus on. My question is that I'm inconsolable, even after I came to know that he loves me more than anything else and all I have to do is wait, and give us the time to grow up. We love and are single all the same. I have become spiritual and withdrawn, unlike what I was before. He is not allowed to mingle until he proves himself to the family, and I have no one I can tell or share that I miss him, or rather I don't need to. I know and he knows. I really don't need to share it. I'm in a situation where i know I'm committed but there is no material proof. It's totally spiritual and emotional and any practical person would tell me to move on. I'm finding it hard to wait and the efficiency of my work has reduced, but I'm not giving up on that if I studied four hrs before I study 10 hrs now. But I'm still afraid and really need some optimistic advice. I know exactly what I need to do-work and let him focus on his, and wait for the right time. I only want to know how to get through this. Later in life I shouldn't regret wasting time and pondering over our relationship which would succeed anyway. How do I get through this Alana?

Dear Alana, I hope you can give me some insight into understanding this more. I have met this man who I feel is a soul mate. We are not in contact anymore due to some complexities on his side. The spark was no doubt there and I think he realized this too but was so overwhelmed with this feeling that he had played it off as nothing. Could you tell me what kind of soul mate he is? Is he a companion or friend soul mate? And what are we learning from each other in this life time? Many thanks.

Hi, I am not sure but my heart is telling me that he is indeed my soul mate. We have been friends for almost five years now and our friendship is closer and stronger than ever. I have confessed to him about three years ago. He knew about it but he never gave me any answers. What amazes me is that we have stayed friends for so long. Now, we tell each other everything. Sometimes I even talked about my previous crush on him with him. What he doesn't know was that I am still deeply in love with him. There's this unexplainable chemistry between us. I'm not sure if he feels the same way about me. He admitted that we are somewhat like soul mates and if I were a guy, we would be best buddies in the world now. Recently I mentioned about my crush on him and he asked if that was in the past. I told him that "you will never know.." And he replied, "Well, if you still like me. Er... Thanks." Does he like me? I don't want to ruin our friendship by making things more awkward for us. He is someone special to me and I really like him. Thanks.

Dear Alana, I believe I met my soul mate, although we actually haven't met yet in person, just corresponding for three months. I have been drawn to him since day one, and we have everything in common, more than I have had with anyone. I feel a very deep connection. We have never discussed relationship possibilities, but I feel there's something there. Do you think he is my soul mate?

Hi Valerie, you may need to make the choice of asking him outright where your relationship stands as far as he is concerned. There is no real way to know without asking. Since you have done this before but did not ask for clarification, you may just ask him for a more in depth answer and relay to him that he is very important to you and you value your relationship.

Hi Alana. I need to know whether I found my soul mate, or not. I have been with this guy for 5 years. We have a daughter together. I just recently found out my previous love from 7 years ago is still in love with me and talking about it makes him breakdown. Could he be my Soul mate over my current man? I'm confused about what to do here. I love both these men so much. I can't just let the love of my first love die away. I have always loved him, and wish I was with him more then my current boyfriend. Can you help me out?

Hello Alana, I am sure that I have met my soul mate. We have enjoyed each others company on several occasions and clicked instantly when we first met. He is a Taurus and I am a Cancer. We speak freely and openly to each other and honestly well on my part anyway. I trust him completely and have no awkward or un-nerving tendencies towards him, as I have had with other guys in my past. He is older and that does not bother me at all. We live apart and have been seeing each other for two months. I would love this to go further than this but am at a lost what to do next.I continue to be patient and am willing to wait for him.Please any advice would be better than nothing,he is 49 and i am wondering if he is being caustious,or just want to be friends . When we are alone together he comes across as being caring/loving and sometimes possessive and jealous at the same time.I am a fun happy person who enjoys life to the fullest and he likes to stay home.Am not looking to change him am happy with the way he is. Please help am stuck for answers?

Hello Alana, I am a Taurus/Gemini woman and last year in October 2008, I met the man of my dreams. We met online and Nate seemed to be everything that I was looking for in a man. The problem is, because he is so detached and aloof, I took that to mean he was not all that interested, even though he said he was. I was still dating others and even started to hang with my ex again. Just as friends. I feel that Nate is my soul mate, I am not sure though. We have not spoken in months and a lot of it is because I pulled away and started to be just as distant and aloof as he was. It seemed to backfire. All of a sudden every 3-4 weeks there is a new woman at his house. I know, because I live right across the street from him. It hurts to see a new car parked overnight in his driveway. What should I do, I sent him a text asking if I could come by, he never responded. I feel he is the one. Is he? When we first met, we talked on the phone for 8 hours and our date the next day lasted 7 hours, we share so many similar interests. Did I mess up my opportunity? What can I do to make him come back to me?

Hi Alana, I have been in a relationship for a little over five years now, but still feel that there is that special something that is missing. To me it feels that perhaps we are just more on a friendship level, and in my heart I know that there is a potential someone out there for me on the level that I am after and that will complete this emotional void that is missing from my life. I guess I am wondering whether you can give me any insight, information, or suggestions as to where my soul mate is and how long it will be before we connect with each other? Perhaps I have already met him.

Dear, Alana I met a man two years ago and our relationship continues the same. I feel there is more intimacy in our relationship than before and we both cannot stay a day without talking to each other. We share very common interests and activities. My worry is he is ten years younger than I am, and I have two children. He never introduced me to his friends or family, and he is not proposing. How will I know if he is my soul mate. I feel that he is my soul mate. He is really concerned about me.

Hello Alana, is it possible to have a soul mate between two guys? I am a gay and currently into a relationship. I am wondering why he is still in my life though I'd like to break him up. My birth date is march 8, 1980. I am a Pisces and he is November 10, 1991. I do really love him, but I did not know if he loves me too. Please help me Alana. Thank you so much and God bless.

Dear Alana, I recently re-connected with an old friend on face book. We grew up in the same town, went to church and attended other activities but were not close. But when we reconnected over 30 years later on face book there was an immediate attraction. It has been 3 months now, and we text and talk on the phone daily. We both have unresolved relationships that we are currently in. We have a very intense deep love for each other, and this was immediate. We have both text each other at the same time, or answer a question that the other was texting. We joked that maybe we were soul mates and meant to be together. We both have a complete feeling when we talk but feel lost when we hang up the phone. Because of the distance we have been having a lot of abandonment. A friend of mine gave me a number for a local psychic who reads tarot cards. I had never done anything like this before, but felt I would try anything to figure out the strange and intense feelings. Of course at the beginning of the phone conversation she never asked any questions, but started with I was at a cross road in my life with a younger gentleman who I shared everything with but a tax bracket, true we have been together 11 years but not married, and that I had another gentleman that was from my past that I took as the one who I grew up with, and then she threw in past lives. She said we both were aware that we were possibly soul mates and had emails and conversations that verified that we were in sync, she said we had not met yet but would meet face to face soon. She mention this person was a Karmic Soul Mate. Being completely shocked just that she knew this stuff, my only question was what do I do and she said both guys would be fine but to make a list and see which one is the best for me. I'm a bit confused, don't you want to be with this soul mate? Is there a reason he is here? We have planned to meet and see each other very soon.

I've been dating a man and have such a great time with him. I feel very warm whenever I'm with him. Recently he expressed that he is not ready to be exclusive with me, yet we still spend time together and we became closer each time. I normally can walk away at this point, but I feel so connected to him, as if I can wait for him and have no qualms about it. In my heart, I feel he is the one for me, but my head says the opposite. I have these two diametrically opposing views, and I need to make sense of it. Do soul mates exist? Can you intuitively feel like someone is meant to be with you? In your heart can you know when a person is your soul mate?

I thought I met my soul mate, and we were together for ten years then he went off with someone else leaving me heartbroken. I have been single for over three years now and over the last year have become friends with a guy. Over the last month we have met one night a week. Nothing steady, I really feel this guy has got a lot in common with me. Do you think there is any future in this or am I wasting my time?

Dear Alana, I am 39 years old and have a 4 year old beautiful boy from an ex few years back. I recently met a 27 year old guy from my own descent and after some time of exploring each other we both realized it was a miracle how we found one another and that we are each others soul mate. After much intimacy and falling in love and getting closer and closer, I tried to explain to him that we should have our first child together this year and why wait since I am getting older. I tried to tell him that we need to overcome any obstacles in this lifetime together since we have discovered that we are soul mates. I clearly saw that if we make it through this lifetime together we would be able to get to one another next lifetime without this age difference even. I saw that picture perfect thing and even though he claimed he cannot see it trusted in my vision and said that since we are one I believe you. Last week my period was late a week and I really thought I was pregnant, so I broke the news to him that I may be pregnant and he flipped, his reaction was angry, distant, and he told me that although he knows deep down we are soul mates on an earthly level, here in this lifetime, now, we cannot be living together as husband and wife. He claimed I get hurt over his immature words and actions at times due to his age issue and that he wants to be alone. Then I said why did you not break this thing to me in December when we had a long and deep conversation together, and he said he was too weak to leave. So I answered, you have gained strength now at the expense of this child. Dear Alana, I just today, after blood test, found out I am not pregnant. Allow me to say that my belief this past week, after breaking the news to him I may be pregnant and am pregnant, had protected me in a way, and gave me strength as to this break up. Alana, why did this happen, why could we not have been happy together. I have always struggled to find my soul mate. Why? I need your words to comfort me.

Hello Alana, I am 27 yr old. I am married. For the past five yrs it was a love marriage, but the guy I have been married to has not been interested in me for four yrs, and I don't have kids because he has had an extra martial affair. I came to find out he cannot have children. He is a big fraud even after I came to know all these things I tried to save our marriage, but it is not working. I am planning to leave him. I need to find my true soul mate.

Hello Alana, I'm really confused with my life. Many have proposed to me, but I never say yes. I've never had a boyfriend nor have I been in a relationship. That's because I believe that there is someone for me. The man of my dreams is out there somewhere who will be my soul mate. I've been waiting for this special one. I'm 19 now, and I really don't know what to do. I'm like extra curricular, social service along with studies which at the end of the day help someone else and makes me feel I can hug and share. I'm desperate to find my one. Who is he, where is he, when will I meet him. I like this guy, but he doesn't. It's like something or other stops me from getting hooked up with someone. This encourages me to believe that yes, there is someone else who is also waiting for me somewhere. I've met many, but I want to meet the one I want to be with.

Alana, I was with my first boyfriend for almost three years and we went through a lot with each other. I helped him through a great deal and stuck by him because I really loved him. Most recently in our relationship he was becoming really distant and I started becoming really clingy. We both really started to lose ourselves and it got be too much for him to handle and three weeks ago he broke up with me. He told me he needs space to figure out who he is and figure out if he still loves me. He said he wanted to see if he missed me or not. I ran into him two weeks ago and I got insecure again and asked him if he missed me. He just looked away and said that he was really just trying to focus on doing his own thing right now, working, getting his g.e.d., etc. It really is painful because I was really in love with him, and I really felt a strong connection with him. Honestly I truly thought we would spend he rest of our lives together. I guess I just need a little guidance because it is getting really difficult, as I am missing him a great deal now. I know I am young. I just turned 21, but I really want to know if I'll find my soul mate, and if there's any hope for my relationship with my old boyfriend.

Alana, I was working with a young man in my school. I have two children and married because I got pregnant. I have never felt a deep connection with anybody and have spent most of my life feeling lonely. I do not look for romance and even though over the years people have tried to flirt with me I always turn away from their advances because I want to keep my family intact. There is a huge age gap between me and this young man and although I felt an immediate spiritual closeness to him and I believe he to me we skirted around one another for months.We were working in an environment where professionally it was impossible to start a relationship or develop one. However, whenever we got a chance we had conversations about spiritual matters and it was as though nobody else in the room existed. One afternoon he broke through the barrier and looked at me straight in the eyes. At that point I felt I had known him for eternity. It was the most powerful experience of my life. We then became closer and he felt comfortable moving into my personal space. However, because of work and because he is so young I felt it was wrong to make further eye contact. He is a Christian, I am married and as I said there is a huge age gap. This doesn't bother me in terms of our relationship but society will not tolerate it and he has to live the life of a young man. This is not a sexual relationship but more like a conjoining of souls. We both were aware of it. He has now left work and we made no plans to meet.I know he was as sad as me. I feel bereft like somebody has died. He is the only person male or female to break down my emotional barriers and I would tell him anything. I am certain we communicate telepathically and I often feel extremely powerful physical emotions as if somebody is contacting me. Again I feel our souls merge. Am I mad and deluded? What has happened? What do i do?