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The Empath's Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff

Advice for Intuitive Empaths: Tips for Expunging Negative Energy

According to psychiatrist Dr. Judith Orloff, there is an epidemic of low energy and exhaustion felt by intuitive empaths.

An intuitive empath is an individual who is highly sensitive and tunes in extra-strength to the emotions of others. As a result, it’s easy to become overly engaged or overwhelmed.

Dr. Orloff is often asked for advice on how people can stop absorbing the negative energy of other people. She’s developed a short checklist of self-love and mindfulness techniques she readily encourages empaths to employ.

Signs of an Intuitive Empath

Woman on BeachA few questions to ask yourself when determining whether or not you are an empath include:

  • Have you been labeled “highly sensitive” by family and friends over the course of your life?
  • Do you prefer to recharge your energy levels by yourself rather than with others?
  • are you sensitive to smells, excessive talking, or loud sounds?
  • do you prefer to drive yourself to ensure you have a means of leaving quickly if you feel necessary?

Dr. Orloff, an empath herself, recognizes the derogatory context of being labeled “highly sensitive,” but ensures that being an empath is a positive thing. While an influx of negative emotions from others can leave an empath feeling exhausted and overwhelmed, being surrounded by positive energy and feelings boosts the peace and love felt by an empath. What’s needed is a guide for empath’s to protect themselves from the negative energy of “energy vampires.”

How an Empath Can Protect His/Her Energy

There are three basic but fundamental things an empath can do to protect his or herself from negative energy. They are:

  • practicing breathing techniques to breathe out negative energy from overly stimulating or less sensitive people;
  • practicing meditation by sitting quietly for three minutes and centering one’s self and pushing negative energy out of the system; and
  • setting firm but kind boundaries with people to avoid being “walked on” by others or left feeling overwhelmed.

Dr. Orloff assures empaths that by following these simple self-love and mindfulness techniques, the preservation of positive energy can be had.

Psychiatrist & Empath Dr. Judith Orloff

Dr. OrloffAuthor of several bestselling books—including Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life (Three Rivers Press), Guide to Intuitive Healing: 5 Steps to Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Wellness (Three Rivers Press), Positive Energy: 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love (Three Rivers Press), and Second Sight: An Intuitive Psychiatrist Tells Her Extraordinary Story and Shows You How To Tap Your Own Inner Wisdom (Three Rivers Press)—Dr. Orloff also blogs for The Huffington Post and Psychology Today. She is a well-respected psychiatrist who blends the fields of intuition and energy medicine with modern psychiatry in order to have a more holistic perspective to one’s wellbeing.

As a strong advocate for the interconnection between physical, emotional, and spiritual health, Dr. Orloff offers a free newsletter called Emotional Freedom & Intuition through her website [drjudithorloff.com]. Her wisdom on intuition and emotional health can also be experienced through her YouTube channel.

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Renew Your Energy with 15 Self-Care Actions

The stresses we encounter in day-to-day living can take a toll on our energy reserves.

Consider a few examples: watching too much television or listening to the world events on the news. These situations can invoke fear responses and become energy drains.

When we feel heavy, a little self-care can help us restore our vitality and energy. If you have been feeling a bit low or are in need of a boost, it may be a great time to do some of these self-love activities to help you stay balanced and resourceful.

15 Renewal Exercises

Two Friends on Chair Lift

  1. Spend some time in nature with a friend going for a walk or an outdoor excursion. Talk about things for which you are grateful.
  2. Practice some deep breathing. As you exhale, imagine your body releasing any sadness or grief. As you inhale, welcome in love and universal wisdom.
  3. Go on a media diet. If you find yourself watching too much television or news, put yourself on a media diet or fast. If you want to stay current, try reading the headline articles in your local newspaper or read the news online instead. By reading the news online, you can learn about current events in 10 or 15 minutes a day versus the hours that you may spend watching television.
  4. Learn something new. Get with a friend who has a skill you would like to learn, or schedule a class in something you are interested in.
  5. Make something. Creative energy always helps us feel empowered!
  6. Volunteer some time to help a friend or a cause that you find meaningful.
  7. Pets are naturally healing. Spend time with pets or animals. Take them for a walk, or give them some extra attention.
  8. A Tree's Healing EnergySpend time in nature’s healing energy, such as going for a swim, walking through a forest, or spending time in your garden.
  9. Learn a “healing or helping” skill. Then share it!
  10. Start a new hobby in an area that interests you, or you feel would make you happy.
  11. Free up some energy. Clean out your closets, and give things you no longer need or have outgrown to those who may want or need them.
  12. Write a story or a poem, and express something you value or feel is important.
  13. Invite a few friends over and teach them something you know that you feel would be fun, inspiring, or helpful.
  14. Fix something that is broken, or give an item a new and refreshing look.
  15. Let someone know you care! Write to a friend or send them a thoughtful, free e-mail card. A two-way conversation is even better! Just pick up the phone and call someone you have been thinking about. You may find they have also been thinking of you.

The Ripples of Creativity

We have learned from Alana that when one individual takes a creative action, it ripples through the whole and helps everyone. The more reactive energy we generate contributes to a downward spiral that is easy to get caught up in.

May any or all of these 15 self-love, self-care action tips spark your imagination and help you feel better and lighter! As we support each other in becoming lighter, our perceptions can begin to see a brighter and more loving world.

—Kirk VandenBerghe

Moving Beyond Stuck: A Goal Setting Secret

An important discovery to make is our personal life mission.

When we identify it, our purpose or mission can increase our life’s joy and happiness.

But, we often get confused and make our purpose far too complicated.

Really, our life purpose is a simple expression of our soul that resonates within our heart.

When we take the time to discover the essence of our purpose, it is much easier to make decisions, like identifying meaningful work.

Question for Alana: Wherever I look for a direction on what I should do with my life, I get just one answer: Set a goal. But that is precisely what I can’t seem to arrive at.

To be honest, I feel like doing nothing. Not only am I goalless, I also can’t seem to zero in on a career.

I’m not happy with what I’m doing right now; my heart isn’t in it at all, but I don’t know what else to do. I just don’t feel motivated to try anything, but I need money.

Daydreaming and ConceptualizingAm I lazy? Am I just stuck with wrong choices?

I feel so lost. Dear Alana, please give me some spiritual guidance that will help get me going somewhere.

Thank you so much.

Alana’s Answer: Greetings, dear one. Thank you for submitting such a powerful question. Let us explore the essence of your question and perhaps we can together arrive at some ways to help you determine your next steps.

One thing we often forget is the power of conceptualization. The creative process has several stages before action is taken. We often forget that within stillness–the nurturing space that knowingness springs from–is one of the very first steps for birthing our concepts and ideas.

It sounds like you have entered this space and know that you cannot jump ahead; that you are missing some steps before you forge ahead with your career ambitions. Trust your lack of motivation because you are actually following your intuition.

Some individuals will judge the fertile space you are experiencing as a sort of laziness. However, you will come to a time when it feels right to move forward.

Give yourself some time to just be. Be still, observe, learn, feel your body, and let your body’s responses lead you. Wait until you receive an internal “Ah-ha” before taking the next “baby step” of creating a goal.

Alana call’s these small actions baby steps because great things are built on a foundation of small steps. Small steps are what are needed to create the space to discover your essence and authentic nature in greater detail. So give yourself some time to fill in each baby step.

Honor the space you’re in. Embrace it. Use it to nurture yourself while you feel “goalless.” Trust that hidden in your being is a goal yet to be realized. It will appear once you spend a little more time exploring your inner dimensions.

But What About the Money?

We do need to make a living and support ourselves. This is true!

Going for the MoneyTherefore, view what you are doing at this moment as the means to earn some income. This becomes a bridge of support while you are in this magical discovery process. Perhaps you can realize that everything is connected and because you are listening you are engaging your heart. There is purpose in how you are feeling in this moment, and this is a grand opportunity.

May you receive a sense of satisfaction knowing that there is a purpose to what may feel like lack of direction, even if your heart does not fully sing while performing the tasks at hand. Trust this process, because you are sensing something greater ahead.

Now you can use your spare time to get to know your inner nature more deeply. There are many books and courses designed to invoke one’s inner passion to uncover a personal mission. When you identify your simple mission, it will resonate in your heart. A simple mission is one that can be shared in one sentence–sometimes even one word. By identifying it, you can explore how you can express this purpose within various careers.

For example, our free course “Discovering Your Authentic Self” is a simple but very effective step by step process to uncover and ignite your personal mission. Take some time and explore this process, and don’t be in a hurry.

A Personal Discovery Process

Often, individuals find themselves working in jobs that others suggested would be good for them. This is sometimes because they haven’t taken the time to get to know their deeper passions. Ambitions can be defined by what socially are deemed as the good, better, and best occupations. When we follow the path of collective social values, we often overlook our innate natures. This is like trying to fit a round peg into a square hole. It may fit, but something will be missing.

It seems to Alana that you are instinctively and intuitively sensing that you are now ready to delve deeper into your purpose. Once you do, you will discover many amazing qualities within. You will know because enthusiasm will begin to bubble up.

Following Your PathWhen we engage with inner enthusiasm, the universe follows by opening doors on our path that lead to joy. This is a magical process of self love that will move your creativity from the conceptualization process to a clearer sense of purpose. Then a vocational interest will follow that wraps around this personal mission. It will be time to take the action steps that will manifest your desired outcomes.

Thank you, dear one, for your question.

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