Relationships

Is there anything wrong in remaining single during one's lifetime?

How does one go about letting go of someone that they love so deeply and for so long, that they gave their all to, because "friends" is not all that they want?

My boyfriend and I have been having a lot of problems with our relationship. He has physically abused me twice in one month. He currently lives with me and I have asked him to leave. I want to know if I have made the right decision concerning this matter. (4 minutes, 29 seconds)

I have a male friend who seems to care about me. He runs hot and cold saying he wants friendship but acts like he wants more. He is aware that I care about him and it seems that just when he starts to let down his guard, he pulls back. (4 minutes, 01 seconds)

I have been married to my husband for 11 years, for 6 of them he was abusive. When I was ready to walk out, he told me he had a problem and needed help. My heart was already in the hands of another man. I thought he really loved me...Why won't my subconscious let go of something that was so destructive to me? (5 minutes, 37 seconds)

Will my husband and I stay together marriage wise after all these years of challenges and changes? Thank you. (2 minutes, 28 seconds)

I'm in love with a man who is absolutely wonderful to me, when I see him. Unfortunately, that is not very often, because he is married. I really love him, but will I ever be married? And if so, will it be him, and will it be soon? (3 minutes, 49 seconds)

I recently fell in love with a man for the first time in my life. He closed the door on our relationship, but I can't. I want to be with him. If I don't make the first attempt, will he ever again contact me? I don't want to pursue him if he doesn't want me. (4 minutes, 46 seconds)

My wife says she no longer loves me and did not want to marry me even though it was her who pursued me. We have a child and I am sad that I will lose him and feel cheated by my wife. Please advise the best way to go forward. (4 minutes, 43 seconds)

I need your help regarding my Jewish friend whom I met almost two months ago. Our friendship grew very vast and now he is gone. What was the purpose of our meeting? Will I ever see him again? I miss him so much. (4 minutes, 24 seconds)

Do you see a mate coming into my life? If so, does he live in this area or in another part of this country where the air is not so polluted and the weather is moderate. (2 minutes, 24 seconds)

My sweet daughter has been in a co-dependent relationship for almost 7 years. She is now almost 25. They are both alcoholic. My prayer is to release her to her highest and best. Any advice or comments you can give to me would be greatly appreciated. (3 minutes, 49 seconds)

Will my friend become involved in a long term love relationship? If so will he relocate to my area? And will we be financially successful? (2 minutes, 49 seconds)

What was the purpose or the lesson I was to get from a brief relationship? (3 minutes, 24 seconds)

I have been in an emotionally abusive marriage for 25 years. I have tried to make it work, but after all this time I am giving up. Meanwhile I have met this wonderful young man who has helped me through all this. Because I haven't left yet, my friend will no longer talk with me. (6 minutes, 12 seconds)

I have been in a friendship and it has developed into a beautiful connection. Then he began to say that I made him uncomfortable because he doesn't know what to expect. (4 minutes, 11 seconds)

The main influence in my life has been from a man born 12-22-60; he has brought me great joy but mostly pain. We have a beautiful son together. I released him from my life 2 years ago and my son also went with him. Now 2 years later they are back. I am afraid to love again and have a great fear to trust again. (4 minutes, 57 seconds)

I am wondering if my relationship of love of many years is going to terminate in this year. (3 minutes, 58 seconds)

I was seeing someone for about 5-1/2 months. We were intimate but for some odd reason beyond me he won't have anything to do with me now. (7 minutes, 58 seconds)

Alana, is it true that in relationships opposites attract? (1 minutes, 47 seconds)

I have been friends with this guy since forever, but over the last year I have taken a liking to him. (3 minutes, 21 seconds)

Will my boyfriend come back to me? (7 minutes, 23 seconds)

I am currently drawn to someone who I feel that I have a connection with and I feel has the same feelings. But the trouble is it's very difficult because of who he is and the obstacles involved. (5 minutes, 13 seconds)

Dear Alana, As you cast about in the universe, would you please offer me some insights about my next steps? It seems that I am still questioning my relationship with my partner and wondering what choice I will make. Can you help? (5 minutes, 4 seconds)

How long will my current relationship last? (3 minutes, 20 seconds)

Dear Alana, I have been dating a fellow for about two and a half months. I am feeling more and more attached and am finding myself becoming a bit anxious.

My question is about relationships. I seem to continue attracting the same type of man into my life: Emotionally unavailable!

I'm wondering how to become more aware of the dynamics of emotions within a relationship?

Dear Alana, can you tell me what happens to certain men that they become emotionally unavailable? Why are some of us attracted to them? (4 minutes, 46 seconds)

I am torn between two women. Are there any aids to help in the understanding of how to "follow my heart"? I need some understanding on how to read my heart ... any books, feed back is greatly appreciated. (4 minutes, 59 seconds)

How do you open your heart again when you feel it is risky to do so? (1 minute, 47 seconds)

What can I do to improve the communication between myself and my husband. Sometimes I feel we can't discuss anything without arguing. I have grown spiritually so much in the past year, but he is the only one that can still push my buttons. (4 minutes, 18 seconds)

I have an overwhelming feeling of disappointment that our daughter has moved so far away. My husband and I ideally wanted to have our family around. Unfortunately we both have made ourselves rather sick and sad over the situation. (4 minutes, 20 seconds)

What do you think? Please enter your comments below.

By Jeremy

2009-07-13 19:25:22

Alana, I am a closeted gay young adult. I have known the same guy and been dating him for almost two years. I love him so much that when he is hurt it tears me apart. Last year when moving in with two gay roommates, I made a mistake and cheated. My boyfriend found out by my roommate. That tore us apart. We went through many ups and downs. He looked on sites thinking that cheating on me would make him feel better. He never did because I caught him prior. 6 months later we were doing fine and got our own apartment. We have been here for a month and I really enjoy it. Just recently I have been having to go out of town for 2 and 3 days. My boyfriend assumes and doesn't trust me. He worries and thinks that his heart will be broken again. he felt that something wasn't right between us, I don't know why, and put a key logger, or spy system, in my computer tracking everything i did. He also posted online asking if guys have ever been with me. He didn't find anything on my computer, however, he did get a hold of my ex boyfriend who I have not talked much about. He decided to meet with him behind my back for 4 hours to talk about me and how I dumped my ex. Now since I know about it, he is all tore again. It breaks my heart. He thinks I am going to hurt him and since I haven't talked much about my past that our whole relationship has been a complete lie. As if he doesn't know anything about me. I don't know what to do. I really love this boy and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I want him to be able to trust me and for us to live happily without thinking we are cheating on each other. I really need advise. How can I let him know how much I love him and how I am never going to hurt him again? How can I get him to trust me again and forgive me for not talking about my past? I really want our relationship to work out. What should I do?

By Caridad

2009-09-23 19:50:48

My relationship of a year and a half has ended badly. I knew in my heart that although I fell head over heels in love with this wonderful man that he and I had many issues we needed to fix for ourselves before we continued as a couple. I made the attempts to work on them and sought numerous help. In the end my insecurities got the better of me and he ended the relationship, and I am devastated and hurt. Again, I know that if I didn't love and trust myself first then I wasn't going to be able to make this relationship work. We both suffer from trust and insecurity issues. Since, I didn't act on my instinct the universe took over and the relationship ended badly. I regret not being able to work on myself before it ended, and I have been told that this was the way it had to happen and only good can come now for both of us. This is hard to take in, because I want him to contact me so that we can make amends. I know we are not meant to be together, but I can't deal with this pain I'm going through now. We both loved each other immensely and it hurts to know that we couldn't make it work. I'm trying to move on but it's very hard.

By Victoria

2009-10-18 20:30:57

I am involved with a man of a different cultural background. We have had an on and off friendship relationship over the past 10 years. Over this past year, it has been on again. He was in the country where I am visiting about a week ago and when he left, he cried saying he would miss me so much. After he got home, he withdrew and the emails were fewer, phone calls non existent. I know his family is putting tremendous pressure on him to marry and I do not fit into their plans for their son. This I know, I have always known. So, why am I feeling so sad? Why it is that I am getting this empty feeling all of a sudden that he is not emailing me everyday? I am now beginning to wonder if it is really him I am missing, or is it the attention I am missing? How can I know for sure? I do realize that my happiness cannot come from him, that is something that has to come from within, but I still find myself checking my email every 10 minutes. Is this an ego issue? The last thing I want to be is that girl! The one who comes across as being needy. That is exactly the way I am feeling and I can't stand it. Please help.

By Michelle

2009-10-30 20:11:12

I am always there for my ex when he needs someone to count on. He thanked me for being there, but how do I respond to him and give him some type of inspiration that I will always be there for him no matter what?

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