Soul Mates

I am in love with and a man and he says he is in love with me. We have been on again and off again but we always somehow end up back together even though there is a third person involved. We aren't being intimate, so I know that's not the reason he still can't let me go nor can I let him go. Yet we still stay in love. Can you tell me if he is my soul mate, or why we are together like this? I really need to know. Thank you for any help you can give.

Hello, about a month ago, I met a guy who I was instantly attracted to. It was as if a force was pulling me to him. He is the most amazing guy I have ever met, kind, compassionate, gentle, out going, and courageous. Words cannot even describe how much I adore him. The feeling is very deep for me. When I saw him I knew he was someone special, something struck me deep in the pit of my stomach telling me to acknowledge it. I think he is my soul mate or twin soul. He lives about four hours away from me, and he will be traveling very much this year. I have already told him how I felt. He told me that our paths may cross in the future. I have to see him again. I have never been this love sick before. I have lost weight, sleep and now unfortunately my hair is starting to fall out. The separation is starting to physically take a toll on me. I don't know if he feels the same way. What does all this mean? How come my intuition and heart is telling me not to let this guy get away, when I feel I have made all the effort to bring us together? It hurts very much, I cry all the time. He is so amazing, he makes me want to be a better person and the person I want to be. My heart aches for him and there isn't a second where he is not on my mind. Please lend your insight to a friend. Thank you for listening.

I am single, and I have met a man, a former office mate. Already married with kids. I was never attracted to him at first, but later on, I started to notice him as we get to know each other, we get along together and found out that we have so many things in common. We have the same interests, though we often argue to some topics but still we enjoy being together. He teases me, but of course, I know that there is nothing special to that. The problem is, I had realized that I am already attracted to him, and I really felt something for him. I felt so concerned about him. I always wanted to see him, and I feel so happy and complete every time that we're together. At times, I wanted to think that we're having a mutual understanding, as if his jokes were true, because I myself feel something for him, though I never did admit it. Now, that we're no longer seeing each other, I still feel so connected to him. I still long to see him, to talk to him, and somehow I do really feel that he feels the same thing. Before, he used to tell me and my friends that I am his soul mate, but I don't really understand what it means. So now, I want to ask, is it possible that we are soul mates even if he's already married to another? What are the signs that we are?

I am currently married and would like to know if he is my soul mate. I at one time thought he was but we have been through so much and a lot of hurtful things. There is a past individual that I always think about and can not shake from about 15 years ago. Any suggestions?

I have such an enormous love and respect for a man I am no longer physically with. He lives in another state. I have tried to communicate with him through email and phone but he rarely responds. I feel a deep connection and a sense of clarity that he truly loved me but I could not see it at the time we were together. He actually took the time to understand me, my true nature and brought it out of me and also showed me the things i needed to work on indirectly. He refuses to give me closure and reality I would say he is ignoring me because he is over me but my heart tells me different and I sense he still loves me. Could I get some insight from you regarding this. Thank you kindly.

I am in love with a married man. He said he felt in love with me the minute he saw me. We are no longer seeing each other in that level but we work together. He tells me he thinks about me all the time, I do too. I love him so much it hurts. Is he my soul mate? How can I learn to love myself and let go of this love? I don't want to hurt his wife or kids.

I have fallen in love with this man. We are currently dating, but I just met him a week ago. I was dating a man for over six years and didn't even feel this strong for him. The thing is I don't think that Michael and I wont work because he is acting distant. I haven't told him I love him. And I wont because it is too soon. What should I do? I am so afraid to lose him.

Hi Alana, I'm writing to ask you a question about soul mates. I recently fell in love for a young woman who I didn't realize at the time meant a lot to me. We hung out all the time and had an intimate relationship. There were people in our circle that didn't like our relationship, so they did as much as they could to separate us, I didn't help the situation any, by being defensive and talking out the side of my mouth. She moved to another state and it broke my heart. I'm relatively easy to get over relationships, but with this one I am incapable of doing so. I feel as though I'm losing my mind, I feel as though her spirit is constantly around me, I've had vivid dreams of us meeting and talking about what went wrong. She blames me every time we meet in my dreams. At this moment there is no communication between us, but I feel like she is calling out for me. I don't know what to do. I feel and felt such a connection to this woman, that I feel like my soul is dead.

Dear Alana, I have meet for sure the man God sent to me. There is no doubt here, we are so alike, everything I have ever wished for. Meeting him was exactly how I always imagined it to be. When we met, he was flying, but after a week, he felt nothing at all, as if his heart closed to all the wonders we where feeling? We still talk, but he seems to be so closed and so sad. Do I hold on to this and give him time to open his heart or do I let go?

Hi Alana, I'm searching for answers and found your site. I feel there's so much more to life, but I'm not connecting with things like I should? Is there something blocking this? And now I'm 41. I feel time is running out or rather I wouldn't have enough time to experience good things when they come to me. Since I can remember, a thought or rather a feeling has been in my mind. I was brought up as a christian and one thing in particular didn't make sense, we all have eternal life but when you marry its till death do you part. I never got that? I always had the feeling I would find my wife, I had never heard of the term soul mate when I was young, and it would be for this life and for the eternal life. I didn't understand how death could part you if we all go on to eternal life? I've been connected with a certain lady for 5 years and although we feel a lot for each other, she, well my perspective of things feel its her, blocks our relationship from developing into love. We had a short time where we went out with each other and then she ended things saying I was too old for her. I'm now 41 and she is 27. I accepted what she said even though my heart was burning in my chest. We continued to see each other as true friends. She never has seen anyone in this time but made it clear it wasn't me she was looking for, as I was so heartbroken at the time I looked for the truth and started using a pendulum. I thought if it says she doesn't love me I can move on and was ready to do so at that time. I used the pendulum and it stated a yes she does love me. In the years that have passed, I learned about soul mates and asked the pendulum if she is my one true soul mate. If we are soul mates for all time and in physical bodies only be true to each other, its the thing I've had in my mind since I was very young so that's the reason I asked such questions and each time the answer is yes. Is she my soul mate or not? Am I kidding myself because if I am, I need to get on a new path. Hope you can swiftly help? Kind Regards Derek

Hi Alana, it is often said that when soul mates first meet, they have instant attraction for one another, love at first sight. I met this person whom I'm suspecting to be my soul mate. However, I remembered on my first outing which was the first time I saw this person, I disliked his physical appearance and even ruled him out as a partner. However, during the trip when we were talking, it just somehow seemed that there was some unexplainable soul connection. For the first time while talking to a guy, my spirit seemed to be lifted and a feeling of excitement coursed through from my stomach upwards. I'm wondering if this person is my soul mate?

Hi Alana, why is it you say we must create our own world, or co-create it but in reality some things are set, look at the letters above this one, people aren't asking you things out of curiosity, they are asking out of desperation. Are some things set and some not? If someone asks you about a certain person, can you not say a yes or a no to the question, that is what people are looking for, definitive answers? You say we come to earth to learn and experience the emotional impact of things, which we can't learn quickly in the afterlife, does that mean our failed relationships are all agreed before we come to earth? If there are agreements made before we come to earth and they advance our soul further in the afterlife, what about the bodies we are in now? Is it right to have them suffer so much? Do we just use these bodies to get the experiences to further our souls and when we are done, ditch them? How can we respect ourselves or love ourselves if our soul uses our bodies for suffering to further themselves in spirit? Thanks Dean.