Soul Mates

I am in love with and a man and he says he is in love with me. We have been on again and off again but we always somehow end up back together even though there is a third person involved. We aren't being intimate, so I know that's not the reason he still can't let me go nor can I let him go. Yet we still stay in love. Can you tell me if he is my soul mate, or why we are together like this? I really need to know. Thank you for any help you can give.

Hello, about a month ago, I met a guy who I was instantly attracted to. It was as if a force was pulling me to him. He is the most amazing guy I have ever met, kind, compassionate, gentle, out going, and courageous. Words cannot even describe how much I adore him. The feeling is very deep for me. When I saw him I knew he was someone special, something struck me deep in the pit of my stomach telling me to acknowledge it. I think he is my soul mate or twin soul. He lives about four hours away from me, and he will be traveling very much this year. I have already told him how I felt. He told me that our paths may cross in the future. I have to see him again. I have never been this love sick before. I have lost weight, sleep and now unfortunately my hair is starting to fall out. The separation is starting to physically take a toll on me. I don't know if he feels the same way. What does all this mean? How come my intuition and heart is telling me not to let this guy get away, when I feel I have made all the effort to bring us together? It hurts very much, I cry all the time. He is so amazing, he makes me want to be a better person and the person I want to be. My heart aches for him and there isn't a second where he is not on my mind. Please lend your insight to a friend. Thank you for listening.

I am single, and I have met a man, a former office mate. Already married with kids. I was never attracted to him at first, but later on, I started to notice him as we get to know each other, we get along together and found out that we have so many things in common. We have the same interests, though we often argue to some topics but still we enjoy being together. He teases me, but of course, I know that there is nothing special to that. The problem is, I had realized that I am already attracted to him, and I really felt something for him. I felt so concerned about him. I always wanted to see him, and I feel so happy and complete every time that we're together. At times, I wanted to think that we're having a mutual understanding, as if his jokes were true, because I myself feel something for him, though I never did admit it. Now, that we're no longer seeing each other, I still feel so connected to him. I still long to see him, to talk to him, and somehow I do really feel that he feels the same thing. Before, he used to tell me and my friends that I am his soul mate, but I don't really understand what it means. So now, I want to ask, is it possible that we are soul mates even if he's already married to another? What are the signs that we are?

I am currently married and would like to know if he is my soul mate. I at one time thought he was but we have been through so much and a lot of hurtful things. There is a past individual that I always think about and can not shake from about 15 years ago. Any suggestions?

I have such an enormous love and respect for a man I am no longer physically with. He lives in another state. I have tried to communicate with him through email and phone but he rarely responds. I feel a deep connection and a sense of clarity that he truly loved me but I could not see it at the time we were together. He actually took the time to understand me, my true nature and brought it out of me and also showed me the things i needed to work on indirectly. He refuses to give me closure and reality I would say he is ignoring me because he is over me but my heart tells me different and I sense he still loves me. Could I get some insight from you regarding this. Thank you kindly.

I am in love with a married man. He said he felt in love with me the minute he saw me. We are no longer seeing each other in that level but we work together. He tells me he thinks about me all the time, I do too. I love him so much it hurts. Is he my soul mate? How can I learn to love myself and let go of this love? I don't want to hurt his wife or kids.

I have fallen in love with this man. We are currently dating, but I just met him a week ago. I was dating a man for over six years and didn't even feel this strong for him. The thing is I don't think that Michael and I wont work because he is acting distant. I haven't told him I love him. And I wont because it is too soon. What should I do? I am so afraid to lose him.

Hi Alana, I'm writing to ask you a question about soul mates. I recently fell in love for a young woman who I didn't realize at the time meant a lot to me. We hung out all the time and had an intimate relationship. There were people in our circle that didn't like our relationship, so they did as much as they could to separate us, I didn't help the situation any, by being defensive and talking out the side of my mouth. She moved to another state and it broke my heart. I'm relatively easy to get over relationships, but with this one I am incapable of doing so. I feel as though I'm losing my mind, I feel as though her spirit is constantly around me, I've had vivid dreams of us meeting and talking about what went wrong. She blames me every time we meet in my dreams. At this moment there is no communication between us, but I feel like she is calling out for me. I don't know what to do. I feel and felt such a connection to this woman, that I feel like my soul is dead.

Dear Alana, I have meet for sure the man God sent to me. There is no doubt here, we are so alike, everything I have ever wished for. Meeting him was exactly how I always imagined it to be. When we met, he was flying, but after a week, he felt nothing at all, as if his heart closed to all the wonders we where feeling? We still talk, but he seems to be so closed and so sad. Do I hold on to this and give him time to open his heart or do I let go?

Hi Alana, I'm searching for answers and found your site. I feel there's so much more to life, but I'm not connecting with things like I should? Is there something blocking this? And now I'm 41. I feel time is running out or rather I wouldn't have enough time to experience good things when they come to me. Since I can remember, a thought or rather a feeling has been in my mind. I was brought up as a christian and one thing in particular didn't make sense, we all have eternal life but when you marry its till death do you part. I never got that? I always had the feeling I would find my wife, I had never heard of the term soul mate when I was young, and it would be for this life and for the eternal life. I didn't understand how death could part you if we all go on to eternal life? I've been connected with a certain lady for 5 years and although we feel a lot for each other, she, well my perspective of things feel its her, blocks our relationship from developing into love. We had a short time where we went out with each other and then she ended things saying I was too old for her. I'm now 41 and she is 27. I accepted what she said even though my heart was burning in my chest. We continued to see each other as true friends. She never has seen anyone in this time but made it clear it wasn't me she was looking for, as I was so heartbroken at the time I looked for the truth and started using a pendulum. I thought if it says she doesn't love me I can move on and was ready to do so at that time. I used the pendulum and it stated a yes she does love me. In the years that have passed, I learned about soul mates and asked the pendulum if she is my one true soul mate. If we are soul mates for all time and in physical bodies only be true to each other, its the thing I've had in my mind since I was very young so that's the reason I asked such questions and each time the answer is yes. Is she my soul mate or not? Am I kidding myself because if I am, I need to get on a new path. Hope you can swiftly help? Kind Regards Derek

Hi Alana, it is often said that when soul mates first meet, they have instant attraction for one another, love at first sight. I met this person whom I'm suspecting to be my soul mate. However, I remembered on my first outing which was the first time I saw this person, I disliked his physical appearance and even ruled him out as a partner. However, during the trip when we were talking, it just somehow seemed that there was some unexplainable soul connection. For the first time while talking to a guy, my spirit seemed to be lifted and a feeling of excitement coursed through from my stomach upwards. I'm wondering if this person is my soul mate?

Hi Alana, why is it you say we must create our own world, or co-create it but in reality some things are set, look at the letters above this one, people aren't asking you things out of curiosity, they are asking out of desperation. Are some things set and some not? If someone asks you about a certain person, can you not say a yes or a no to the question, that is what people are looking for, definitive answers? You say we come to earth to learn and experience the emotional impact of things, which we can't learn quickly in the afterlife, does that mean our failed relationships are all agreed before we come to earth? If there are agreements made before we come to earth and they advance our soul further in the afterlife, what about the bodies we are in now? Is it right to have them suffer so much? Do we just use these bodies to get the experiences to further our souls and when we are done, ditch them? How can we respect ourselves or love ourselves if our soul uses our bodies for suffering to further themselves in spirit? Thanks Dean.

Hello, I would like to ask when you have found your soul mate does that person make you feel like you know him from somewhere? I met this guy I like and it's a roller coaster with him, but the day I met him I asked myself where do I know him from. Also does a soul mate connection take longer to connect? Help me on this, I want to know how you know if you have met your soul mate? Also are soul mates spiritually connected will destiny empower and pull soul mates together if they are apart?

Dear Alana, I met a guy on a bus and I felt an incredible attraction, so strong that inside me there was a voice that tells me he's my soul mate. We see each other everyday on the same bus. We never talk because we are afraid to look at each others or make eye contact because the attraction is so strong. But my heart tells me he's my soul mate, and he also feel this attraction. I can tell when he stares at me.

Hi Roxana, why not ask him something and start a conversation and see where things go from there?

I have been in love with this guy for over a year. We didn't have a hard time liking each other. In fact, we got along easily as if we've known each other for a long time. The problem is we don't talk much about meaningful things, like personal stuff. I feel like he's avoiding serious conversations, especially when it comes to problems, whether it's his, mine, or ours. We've been together twice and both lasted only a month. We can't work our relationship out, but I can feel how strong our feelings are for each other. Now, we're trapped in an undefined status because I'm too scared we can't make us work again, and I don't want to lose him for the third time. Is he my soul mate? If yes, why can't we work this out? If no, why can't I move on? Just the thought of giving him up for others brings out my tears? I feel like I can never have feelings for another guy anymore.

I have never been on this site before but have been reading through some of the questions and there is some good stuff on here so thought you may be able to help with my problem. I have been with my partner for a year. We were friends for about eight months before we were together and have always got on well. We have been through a lot in the year we've been together suffering loss, which caused us to separate for two months. During this time, although we were still in touch, I went on a few dates with another man. I did tell my partner about these dates and he was understanding about the situation. My partner and I got back together five months ago, and we were happy to be back together. I stopped seeing this other man immediately, although when doing this he told me he had fallen for me and really thought we were meant to be together. The problem my partner and I are having lately is that we can't seem to stop arguing about everything and anything, we have both admitted that we love each other dearly but we are both worn out and have decided to take a few days apart to think about what we want or how to make us work again. I'm very confused lately. Do soul mates disagree as much as this? The other problem is, although I would not betray my partner, I still think about whether I gave up something with this other man, we did get on extremely well and seemed to have the same values and a real connection, but was this because we had just met as I had these same feelings during the first rush of love or lust with my partner? I would love to know how to determine who is my soul mate, if either man, and how I would go about making my relationship work. I do wish the other man had not said he thought we were meant to be together, why would someone feel this way if it was not actually the case and we weren't meant to be together? I'm extremely confused and would love any advice you could offer. Many thanks.

Is this a soul mate relationship despite the circumstances? Before I met my current boyfriend, I was out for revenge on boys because I had a grudge against one who traumatized me. I moved to a new school, and I first met my boyfriend in class and the moment I saw him, I recognized him somehow even though I never saw him before and although there were others around. He was the only one I saw, as if time were standing still. I didn't like that one person could do all of that to me and I tried to stay away from him at first. I was wondering how on earth could someone I didn't even know felt so familiar and brought those intense feelings but eventually, I gave up because I unconsciously gravitated towards him and I felt that there was no reason for me to stay away anymore. I found out he liked me and the relationship began when I kissed him. I felt sparks flying, and that my search was over, because I was pretty much awake. I felt that I was sleeping my entire life and simply existed before him, and I felt certain that no other guy would take his place. I found out that I stood out to him, so he must have the same feeling. He irreversibly altered me in the days we spent together. Then, we were forced to separate, leaving me heartbroken and an empty shell. I attempted to get over him but nothing worked, because I unconsciously did actions that reminded me of him. Yet, I tried not to do anything that brought back those memories. I tried to convince myself by now he won't love me but something told me I was wrong and I'll see him one day. Recently, he came back into my life. Even after five months, nothing had changed what I felt about him. Sparks flew, time stood still, I could see myself in his eyes, still finished his sentences and I had that sense of homecoming. It turns out he was looking for me as I was for him and believed that I might had found someone else but that didn't stop him. I mean, we're made for each other and he agrees. But my boyfriend and I are attending separate schools, so I hardly see him and it's crazy that I know him so well but I don't doubt that he loves me as I do him. It's just that he's concerned about hurting me again, because no matter what he can do, he'll never be able to make up that time away from me. He was angry at himself for doing that to me and felt I might be better off without him and we tried to break up but we couldn't do it because our bond was too strong. He loves me and he feels that he's selfish for wanting me even though he hurt me and I feel selfish for loving him after those five months away from him, but we want each other. I always feel he's right there with me and at times, I could hear his voice telling me to make the right decision. I usually dream of him and I swear I can feel what he feels when we're away from each other. We have a perfect relationship but our only problem is that we can't see each other or have any contact at all. He's basically repeating what I did so long ago and it didn't work on him, and it doesn't phase me because I somehow know that his efforts would be in vain. I don't complain for not seeing him all the time, and I treasure the moments I do have with him. Sometimes I reflect back on our romantic moments and I could relive those reactions and emotions, even though he's only in my mind. Is he a soul mate or am I wrong?

When you find your soul mate you will know it because you feel as if you want to be with this person forever.

I am wondering will I meet my soul mate? If so when do you think? Is there really a soul mate out there for me? I thought my ex was a good man but unfortunately he is a very nasty selfish one who has no respect for anyone but himself. I hope he finds his way back to his old self for him.

Hi I am 27yrs old. There's this girl I met she's 17 yrs. old, and we are fond of each other. I sincerely love this girl, and she loves me too but I am scared that I might lose her later on because of some attitude she possesses. Attitudes like having a penchant for beautiful things, which makes me think she's naive about things of love and that she might end up being selective. I really don't know what to do. Lately, I have asked her if she was interested in me and it took her time to answer. Later I told her it will be good if we go our separate ways, and she was so scared and said she doesn't want to lose me. I am really confused. Please I need your advice.

I have been divorced for seven yrs., and have not had a meaningful relationship since being married. A couple months back I went out with a longtime male friend and had a great time, but he is newly divorced so he is not ready for a love affair. We keep in contact but my question is how do I know if this will ever go anywhere and when. I don't want to sit around and wait for him to be ready but I love him and have for years. I can't stop thinking about him, but I feel like I am riding an emotional roller coaster. Please help.