Kirk: You know, it’s easy to talk about these concepts but it can be quite difficult, in the moment, to remember this stuff. For example, right in the beginning of a conflict it seems like most of us automatically enter into some kind of non-resourceful state. Do you have any tips for what to do when we are stuck and don’t feel that we can access the wonderful principles you’ve been sharing?
Alana: Yes. Create a mantra for yourself. Create a phrase that you can say inside of yourself whenever you feel you are off center. Practice one that will bring you awareness.
For example, let’s say that you have another dilemma. You want to be adored and you want to have more love in your life. Yet you have parts in yourself that feel very confused by this. First of all, you may want to learn more about these confused parts.
You don’t want to say, “These parts do not exist. I do not like them, and I want to squelch them and make them go away.” Instead you can say to your various parts, “Parts, talk with me. Please tell me all of your feelings.” Show respect for them. Respecting others is also about having respect for the others within you.
Sometimes these parts may feel like they are outside of you. Allow your many parts to express. Recognize we are multidimensional and we have the ability to integrate many parts all at the same time. By using your mantra on an ongoing basis, it will help you attain awareness when you feel fragmented or confused.