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Kirk: It seems to me, Alana that these ten steps are a practice that we can continue to strengthen over time.
Alana: Yes indeed Kirk. We are consciously evolving, elevating, learning, and growing through the steps and exercises in this series. The series is created in such a way that we can move back and forth between the various steps after we experience them the first time through. Much energy is ignited in our beings through our intention to discover our innate nature and develop our sense of self. Because of this, I must mention again that daily practice in some form, where you embrace modalities to help you release any built-up or excess energy, in tandem with your conscious intention to turn toward that which you choose to create, is vitally important.
Releasing blocked energy will help each person stay attuned to their nature, and facilitates a greater sense of ease when we find ourselves out of balance, compromising, saying yes when we would rather say no, feeling emotions that we dislike, or when we become unfocused.
Kirk: It sounds like you are describing growing pains, Alana!
Alana: Yes, it seems so Kirk. Yet growing doesn’t have to be painful. It is painful when we hold on to expectations that no longer serve us, or are unrealistic for who we are today. It is much more painful to hold on to what is unlike us than to let go and become who we truly are. Alana wishes to impress this thought. Emotional pain is deeply associated with holding on. There is a certain resilience that comes into one’s life by letting go. When we can let go, and when we have a clear intention in place to step into our individual natures, it becomes so very transformational, wonderful really.
Kirk: Does the feeling of fear or unease about someone or some situation serve as a signal to us? For example, that a specific person, place, or thing is not in alignment with our authentic self or our higher purpose in this lifetime.
Alana: That is a wonderful question. The reaction that a person is feeling inside needs to be examined, and the responsibility for the feelings needs to be taken more into the self, rather than projecting them onto the person, place, or thing outside of the self.
Let me attempt to explain this. Imagine you are in the company of a person who is very negative, and it brings up feelings of unease or even fear. By the way, I am not referring to the type of fear relating to physical safety. Imagine that this person is also a teacher who is helping you learn something about yourself. So this fear or unease can give us an opportunity to work with your energy and define who you are in a deeper way. So, it really depends on what you learn about yourself through the interaction.
This question wants to direct us inward so we can gain more conscious information. Sometimes we have uncomfortable feelings when we are about to grow. Confusion is a high vibrational state. It means we are growing, that we are moving from one state to another. Therefore, sometimes when we experience discomfort it is really more about ourselves than it is about the experience we are encountering. As we create more balance within ourselves, often the experience becomes less of an aversion. So in cases like this, allow yourself again to reflect on your values and what is important to you. Then bring this awareness into a communicative process where you exchange more information. By doing this, you’ll more easily be able to tell if the situation is something that is or is not in alignment with your highest or best good.
Kirk: So the uncomfortable state that this question points to presents us with an opportunity to learn to distinguish between what isn’t in alignment with our highest and best good, and where we are growing and learning.
Alana: Yes. Sometimes we fear being out of our comfort zone. We fear the unknown. If we work with the first steps in this process, we will be able to identify what is not good for us from the states of confusion that sometimes occur while we are growing.
Working With Emotions
Kirk: Alana, I have a question here from one of our subscribers and would like to read it to you.
Alana: Wonderful, please do.
Kirk: They write, “I am stuck, in transition between steps nine and ten! My focus, including Sandy’s on-target Numerology Reading, has been on awareness, finishing up old stuff, creating new patterns, and listening to inner guidance. However, the flood of emotions associated with transformation sometimes clouds the issue. I meditate, do Tai Chi, yoga, qigong, etc. I’ve created a lifestyle that supports my growth, yet my plug-up point is expressed in these words from Alana: ‘…willingness to feel whatever lies within you when your emotions say you are afraid.’ Can you please elaborate on what to do with all the emotions, so that I can get back to my authentic soul’s voice?”
Alana: The jammed up emotion is a sign that a person is still measuring from the outside rather than the inside. This automatically sets up a stress state in the body. This is because we can only second guess what the outside world’s true perceptions are. The only place we can take action is from what is true within. So in an instance as this, I feel it is time to go back to step one and do some affirming. By filling up your well, it can make you feel much stronger. When you affirm the kindness that exists within your being and your beauty, you gain a deeper connection with your true source of power, which is really love. So begin by practicing step one.
Next refresh your memory of steps two, three, and four and then move to step five and six. Take some time to really get a sense of what you value. Repeating this step will add energy to your inner well.
Next, participate in a release activity. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a healing modality that supports energetic balance, a physical activity that channels energy through your body, or a specific technique that facilitates emotional balance. As you continue to release, more balance should be moving into your body and mind.
On some days we have more energy than other days. So on the days that we feel emotionally overwhelmed, it tells us that we need to go to step one, as self-love is always the first step. When we fill ourselves up with an appreciation for who we are, it makes us stronger. Then as we create a release, we begin to balance. This way we are able to feel whatever lies within us even when our emotions tell us we are afraid. Our emotions come from our mind’s attachment to what we believe our feelings are telling us. And our feelings really want to point us to our values.
Kirk: One of the metaphors I think of regarding your suggestion is this: Think of the nature of our soul as pure water. On the bottom of our being is some silt, or sometimes sludge, just from living in this collective earth plane. When a transformation process begins, our container gets shaken up. All of a sudden everything gets very cloudy. If you think about this metaphor, the water has not changed whatsoever. It is still pure water. It is simply holding this “stuff”, and doesn’t need to mean anything. When we use any type of balancing or clearing technique, we are actually filtering out what has been stirred up, that which has been activated and that which is really not us. However, it may feel like we are the sludge because it has been stirred up and mixed with our true essence, creating confusion.
Once we are able to filter the water, we don’t have any less liquid. We are simply filtering out what is not us, and then the water becomes clear again. This kind of process often happens in a transformation process when a lot of stuff gets stirred up. We identify with what got stirred up, why it got stirred up, where it came from, and what our mind might think is happening. Doing this then stirs even more stuff up!
Things will get stirred up as we get more in touch with who we are. So, we are wise to remember to release. Every in-breath is followed by an out-breath. When we breathe in fresh air, we breathe out old “stuff”. This doesn’t mean a thing. We don’t need to hold our breath and then analyze the meaning of all of the old air. We can just release it.
Alana: Well said and thank you, Kirk. That is a beautiful and clear analogy for what occurs as we grow and discover! Our true and fully expressed natures are quite magnificent. When our authentic natures show up and share, it certainly makes the world a much brighter and happier place to live. We become examples to others, which is a powerful purpose in itself. By being an example of authenticity, our purpose falls into place. We are able to step into our Authentic Nature, and grand synchronicity follows.
Kirk: Thank you, Alana, for sharing the “Discovering your Authentic Self” series with us. We trust that people will gain essential wisdom from applying the ten practical steps you have so graciously outlined.
Alana: It has been my pleasure, dear one. Thank you for your interest in the “Discovering your Authentic Self” series.
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