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Dealing with Self Judgment? A Meditation for Moving Into a Resourceful and Non Judgmental State

We are often told it is not good to judge others.

The guilt or shame we feel when we do can turn into negative self judgment.

We can get caught in a mental loop where we begin judging our judgments.

This state can create an emotional dam causing mental reactions that keeps us from accessing a creative state of authenticity where we have access to our inner wisdom and guidance.

The following self guided meditation can be read aloud and recorded. Be sure to include pauses between the paragraphs for reflection. Use The Heart Meditation as a guided meditation to help create a healthy emotional state where judgment transforms into a much more creative awareness: discernment.

Heart Meditation

Heart MeditationLay down or sit quietly with your hands on your heart.

Allow whatever feelings you have to rise to fuller consciousness.

Whatever your feelings are, allow yourself to have them and to just be with them.

Allow whatever is present to be present.

Take a few moments to feel them fully and allow your feelings and emotions to rise to the surface.

As you move into this feeling state remind yourself you are safe to feel what is within you, for what is within you is there to guide you. Your feelings are always valid. Your feelings hold keys to open doors that will free you from fear and self-limitation.

Connect with Your Breath

Windy FieldLike the wind blows across an open meadow and bends the seeding tassels of grass, take a moment to connect with the movement of your breath.

Now, as you inhale, allow your breath to open and feel it move deeper and deeper within your body.

As you inhale deeper with each breathe imagine you are also breathing in a beautiful radiating light.

Know this comforting light holds useful information that you will soon realize along with the essence of compassion.

Compassion for all that you are currently feeling and have experienced in the past.

Breathe in Light and Information

Radiant LightThis benevolent and comforting light is relaxing to your emotions. As you gently and deeply breathe in light and compassion you are beginning to feel a sense of tolerance and deep relaxation.

This state is connecting with your innate senses and your intuition. You are simply gaining greater clarity as this light filled information guides you to a practice of self-care.

Now you are able to remember multiple ways to create and invite self-love. You remember what it is like to nurture and love yourself just as you would any loyal and trusted friend.

The safety you feel is creating a space that allows old limiting thoughts or beliefs to float freely away from your essence…floating and rising into the distance.

Take a moment now to sense a growing new found freedom that can change your reality for the better.

Find a Magical Key

A Key to WisdomThis freedom has the ability to allow judgments to transform into discernments. Any reactions to the judgments you have held onto in the past are presenting keys that unlock a door where discernments are easily realized.

Simple ways to self nurture that help you create life with ease and magic easily emerge from your inner light.

With your breathe, you inhale a deep sense of self-love and any left over limiting judgments easily release from your physical body.

  • You easily release fears from the past.
  • Your easily let go of any fear of the future.
  • Fear you have held onto for lifetimes no longer makes sense to hold and dissipates until it is gone.

Guided by light, you now know all fear that you have held and stored has gently left and moved beyond your field creating space for new realizations.

You are now able to discern your deep innate inner needs and the values you hold dear to your heart.

Visit A Moment in Time

A moment in timeIn the minutes, hours, and days ahead the essence of your purpose will shine brighter.

Imagine a moment in time where you are free to do whatever you please while trusting the guidance of your  inner self. In this moment you realize your purpose both in your inner and outer world.

It is delightful to know that whatever excites you and allows you to thrive is possible.

Take a few moments and feel and sense what you might do, how you might be, and what you may have as you fully express authenticity and divine purpose.

Notice how all of your senses are involved. One by one your senses easily bring an image to focus that reveals your full, sparkling, light-filled essence. This is an aspect of who you really are!

Now trust that at any given future moment you can express from this newly realized light filled essence.

Spend time and look at yourself. Imagine your light filled essence as it speaks to you in a clear voice. What might it say? What words might flow from your true love-filled self.

Notice the words and how they guide you to a deep understanding of your unique individuality, your loving purpose, and why you choose to be in this world at this time in your life.

Experience Clarity

Creating ClarityA sense of clarity allows you to learn from situations you have experienced in this life. You can easily find additional keys as you need them to open any closed doors that appear in your future. Whenever a door appears that is closed as you open it you are able to connect with your personal power. Your keys always help you open doors to abundance, and help you realize new and powerful possibilities.

Now it is time to draw all you have realized, discovered, and remembered while on this journey into your heart. You know you can trust your mind’s ability to grasp this information and use it in the most useful ways.

This heart and mind wisdom will always instinctively know how to balance and remain fully accessible. You’re a beautiful blend of your higher and true self and the person you feel yourself to be.

Pause for a moment or two. Allow your heart to recognize the desire of your mind that wants to help you learn and discover what is most important.

Take another moment or two and pause again. Witness as your mind realizes the wisdom of your heart and its ability to guide you to what you value most…what is most dear to your authentic nature.

Embrace Heart and Mind Harmony

Moving into the heartNow take another moment to experience again your heart and mind in harmony.

As you inhale and exhale your breathe gently assists you to awaken present and clear minded from this compassionate and light filled state.  You awaken refreshed and alert, ready to continue your day.

It is comforting to know at any time you wish your body and senses will lovingly help you remember the knowledge gained during this state of expanded awareness.

Now, slowly count from five to one.

Five: You feel the connection to your body and the room where you are laying of sitting.

Four: The outside world is more apparent as your attention moves to your surroundings.

Three: You gently open your eyes and look around you.

Two: With mental clarity, trust, and courage you are now able to discern what is your highest and best choice in any given moment.

One: You are now fully awake, aware, and ready to go about your day with clarity, peace of mind, and a happy heart.


You may also enjoy reading Alana’s answers to questions others have about self judgment and judging others.

To learn more about heart mind balance, visit > Explore Alana’s Answers on the Power of Discernment

Winding Your Clock by Coming To Your Senses

Question: Hi Alana, for the last 6 yrs my family and I have been facing great trouble. I live with my parents, a young brother, my wife and my two daughters.

My family’s status has gone in steadily decreasing order. All the wealth we had accumulated has been lost. We don’t feel mentally and physically good.

Today we have nothing left to spend even if someone becomes ill. The whole family depends upon my earnings. I don’t know what to do. I feel helpless. Do you have any advice? Chandan

Answer: Dearest, Chandan. Thank you for your beautiful question.

Pocket Watch - Wind Your ClockDo you remember the type of clock that you wind up?

At first it ticks faithfully and tells the time accurately, but then it eventually winds down.

Perhaps all of your challenges have you feeling somewhat wound down.

Alana would like to encourage you to find ways to wind up your clock. These methods do not need to take much time and they do not need to cost any money. The richness and abundance of the universe always envelops you.

Does the Beauty of Nature Awaken Your Heart?

Here is a question. What things spark, awaken, and warm your heart? For many, it is the beauty of nature. For others, it is coming to their senses: taste, smell, touch, sight, and sound. You do not need to fully wind up your clock through a “big event.” You can begin with just the first click of winding your clock. Perhaps there are twenty or so clicks for each winding revolution, and perhaps it takes five or so winds to fully energize your clock. Still, a single click is a beginning…is it not?

If you like, close your eyes and allow yourself to take a deep breath in…hold for a moment…and then slowly breathe out. Continue with a few more deep, relaxing breaths. As you come into awareness of your breath, allow your attention to move up to your heart. Sense the area of your heart. Can you feel the peace there? If not, can you go deeper until you find the peace that is always there? Even when our lives are in chaos, we can move our attention to our heart…sensing deep within…and allow a remembrance of a still peacefulness that always exists within.

If it is comfortable now, place your hands on your heart. Continue to breath slowly. As you breathe in, imagine you are bringing in the light of love, the light of spirit, the light of kindness. As you breathe out, imagine you are releasing stagnation, heaviness, worry, fear. Breath in light…hold for a moment…release that which used to be stuck…is flowing now…as you are aware of your heart.

Winding Up Your Clock

Lavender BloomingNow, let us ponder what might click your clock.

What is the most beautiful flower or other fragrant object in nature you have ever seen? Can you remember a sense of the colors? And can you smell this object of beauty? How many clicks does your clock wind up?

What is a taste that you enjoy? In your imagination, can you taste it now—even a little? Or a lot? Does it make your mouth water? Imagine you are tasting this now. How many clicks does your clock wind up?

You do not need to wind your clock all at once. You can wind it one tick at a time and whenever you wish. Notice how easy it is to wind one click at a time. Even the sense of a gentle, refreshing breeze on your face can click your clock.

Is there a sound you love? Perhaps it is music or even a sound in nature. Can you pretend that you are hearing it now? You do not need to “really” hear it. You can simply imagine as if you can hear it and receive a sense of the sound. How many clicks does your clock wind up?

Is there a texture you cherish? The feel of a certain animal’s fur, a stone’s surface you enjoy, or the skin of a favorite fruit? Can you feel it now? How many clicks does your clock wind up?

Coming To Your Senses

Sight. Smell. Taste. Sound. Feeling.

Coming to your senses.

When you awaken your senses—come to your senses—you wind your clock. It just takes one click at a time.

It can only help you to feel fulfilled within when you shift your attention from your stresses and problems to that which awakens your senses. When you do so, you begin to create a positive energy within and you release old, unneeded energies. You wind up your clock. As you do so, this positive energy will continue to further wind your clock. You might begin to wonder how soon it will be before you begin to notice things that evoke your five senses and wind your clock even more, and without any effort on your part. Isn’t it curious how you can build a positive, hopeful energy within and that energy attracts more of the same?

Like attracts like. You attract what you want by first filling yourself up with energetic essence of what you want. Then you can both better move toward what you want and attract to you what you want.

See if you can enjoy learning to focus within; focus on what inspires you, awakens your senses, and lifts your heart. Click, click, click.

Continue to practice-play with directing your five senses to what makes you smile and laugh and feel hopeful. Wind your clock. Allow yourself to be filled with positive, light, loving energy. Wind up your clock. Build energy. Click, click, click.

Expressing Kindness

pic-holding-senior-hand-in-kindness-2Would you like to practice making eye contact with others? You don’t have to stare. When it feels appropriate to you, simply smile at others for a moment. Give them some of your light, some of your love. It will not deplete you. Whenever you give love and light, you will receive what you just gave tenfold or even vastly more. Expressing small acts of kindness can change your world.

When you feel needy, give what you need. When you start to feel more peaceful—sometimes for no apparent reason—allow a smile to emerge. When you start to feel more joy, and you will, share it with others. When patience arises naturally in situations that used to cause discomfort, allow yourself to sense your breath and notice the inner source of that patience. When you notice a gentleness and ease moving through you, put your hands on your heart and express thanks in your own ways.

Your heart is expansive, vast, limitless. When you awaken your heart by winding your clock, you open doorways to infinite possibilities.

Would you like to find opportunities to share your light? Or look for ways to share your love? Or notice ways to inspire others?

See if you can enjoy bringing yourself back to these energies of light, love, and inspiration. Trust that as you light the pathway for others—even in the very simplest and most humble ways—your own path will illuminate. Certainly, you will then attract to yourself the beauty that resides within.

Thank you for your question, Chandan.

— Alana