…rebalancing motivation that may be based on an intent that is fueled with polarity a clear choice will emerge.
Question: I am considering a work training course that will take extensive resources in time and money, but will give me the knowledge I need to enrich the lives of all who work with me in my career.
I also want to have a child during the same time period and worry the combination of the two could be unfair to my family.
Do you think the good that could come from the training will balance the inconvenience, and possible hardship on others by doing it with a baby around?
Thanks in advance for your career and personal counseling insights.
Answer: Do you know what I find interesting about this question? It is packed with many other questions.
Many different considerations are included in the question. An understanding is present in your delightful question that we are co-creators as we interrelate with others.
It is also clear that you are aware of how each of the actions we take in our lives impacts those around us. You also understand that we have to be true, full, and involved in self-care and excitement in order to deliver to others the greatest expression of who we are.
Heart Listening Exercise
Therefore, with this understanding go within and feel a connection to your heart and connect to your desires, those you feel to be most significant to this current time of choice. Your family and loved ones will also end up being the beneficiaries as you begin to discover where the most passion is directed in alignment with what is most true for your inner nature.
Now as I express this, I can hear your nature saying, “But I want this and I want this and I want this. It is not that simple to say it is just this one thing”.
Now with this information and insight, take the next step which is to feel what it would be like to have each expression active and realized. After spending, some time in discovery acknowledge which of the choices could bring the most joy at this time.
You see when approaching this question from just the mind sorting options; this is where the confusion brews about. Instead, approach the various options and actually kinesthetically feel each of them with your inner senses. Bring the options within to go on and imagine interactions with others to give your body a direct experience. The body does not lie, do you see? You are especially attuned to your body and the clearest answer will be revealed.
This is what Alana calls mind questioning and heart listening! It is quite useful for sorting possibilities and moving toward a greater probability.
Is Motherhood Enough?
I get a feeling, when I sense your full nature, that motherhood and being in a new world where you get to learn new information, would be very stimulating. Then I get a sense that you would judge a focus on motherhood and say, “But then I am not contributing in the world. I’m not learning and becoming more. Therefore, I am not as creative as my husband and contributing as much”.
Do you see? There is a competitive nature within the initial question that is a consideration. Perhaps, motherhood and all that it contains could give you a basis for exceptional growth and contribution?
So, I ask this dear one to sense if you would feel you are enough just as you are at this moment. Of course, you will say yes because you know you are! Nevertheless, there is an aspect of your nature that wants to experience an expansion of knowledge gained from learning. This is where competitiveness is felt.
The intention behind competitiveness feels as though it stems from a desire to have and be more. This is wonderful because it shows a desire to contribute but the foundation of the desire can contribute to a feeling that one is not enough.
Can you get what I am unpacking in your question and where does the basis of your question really stem from?
By rebalancing motivation that may be based on an intent that is fueled with polarity a clear choice will emerge.
When I feel your heart, I feel a desire to step into being a mother with contentment. I feel a desire to be in your home, making bread (another way to say filling your senses by making your home a nurturing space). I feel a desire to enjoy making your home a beautiful space. I feel a desire to have your baby-being, and in taking this course you may heal any aspects of your childhood that would like to rebalance.
My gosh, this question stimulates much joy! As you experience moving deeply into your heart space continue to ask, and the answers will always be revealed deeply within the heart. Do you know have a sense of what you truly want?