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Part 3: Questions clarifying the difference between personal attachment and self-love in relationship to healing.
Question: I enjoyed the discussion about chakras in the last askAlana.com Ezine. However, I’m a little confused on one point. Your weekly quote was:
Quote One: “Always trust your feelings because they are there for a purpose: To point you to your values, to point you to your desires, and to assist you in creating what you wish.”
And in talking about the Solar Plexus Chakra, you said:
Quote Two: “You see, it is the attachments to the self and one’s own agenda that diminish the benefits that are possible when embracing this chakra’s potential resources.”
These two seem to be contradictory. How do we follow our dreams without being selfish?
Alana: Hello, dear one. Thank you for this thought-invoking follow up question that was inspired from our askAlana.com Ezine article on “Developing Intuition through Chakra Balancing.” I am delighted to answer your question and assist in distinguishing the difference between the two quotes you mention. As we explore these quotes, it will surely support personal empowerment.
Expanding Into a Higher Sense of Self
The first quote is from our recently published book, “The Seven Sacred Steps – A Practical Guide to Peace & Freedom.”
This quote is descriptive of a state of being where we embrace the vibration of expansion. The quote points to an aspect of self-love.
The more we begin to understand our authentic nature–the honest perceptions of who we are–the more we will be able to take authentic action (a creative direction in the physical world). When we take authentic action, we are not contracted nor overly attached in a fixed way. Actually, it is just the opposite.
We will move with direction and focus while having a greater sense of clarity through knowing ourselves passionately. We then become more expressive, loving, open, and are more apt to lead a richer life. We also will become more able to move toward love and release selfishness. We will identify with greater levels of personal empowerment.
When we Lose Our Multi-Sensory Self
The second quote describes a contracted Solar Plexus Chakra. It describes a very different state of being than the first quote. As you read the second quote, you can sense the more contracted nature a person who experiences this state will be in. Their mental perceptions will be narrowed, rather than expanded into their multi-sensory nature.
Attachment and one’s own agenda, as described in the quote, defines what occurs when we become limited in our beliefs and our perceptions.
This is because of our mind’s assumptions. We distance from our authenticity due to the chatter that goes on inside the mind. The energies of doubt and fear then direct our decision making. Thus, the second quote points to how our mind’s attachments or limiting beliefs can create a contracted state. This shuts down the flow of love and spirit that wants to support us in our life.
We become limited in the amount of service we can provide and the inner gifts we can demonstrate and share with our world and with ourselves. We become disempowered.
Embrace and Take Action
Therefore, recognize the first quote is about expanding one’s heart while embracing the senses. It is about invoking one’s ability to practice self-love through creative action. It is about turning towards what you wish to create and receive, which signals and allows the universe to support you.
The second quote is a contractive state where one distances from the vibration that allows universal support. This statement summarizes what happens when our mind contracts because of the vibration of fear or any attachment that narrows possibility.
Here our mental reasoning lacks an observer, so the mind solely determines how things should be while it tries to move away from fear. In this state of being, fear is what dictates the direction. This is a reactive and contractive state of reasoning, and would only allow guidance that is of equal vibration.
We are much more apt to create our dreams and be of greater service when we are creative and expansive. We are also more apt to be selfless AND fulfilled (“self-full”) at the same time, which is an incredible state of empowerment. When we are contractive and reactive, that is when we are truly selfish, for we are not allowing ourselves to fully align with love and spirit. How can we be truly resourceful in that state? We are limiting possibility and not creating a heart-mind balance.
Living Beyond Duality
For the most part, we have not been taught how to distinguish the difference between these two states of being. We have been lead to believe that we must suppress our joy because there is not enough joy or love to go around in the world. Humanity often lives in duality (good/bad, right/wrong, black/white) and thinks that if we do something that upsets another person, we are then selfish.
We get confused by the values learned through our feelings and the mental assumptions and judgments created by our emotions.
We have also not been taught to develop and become conscious of our subtle inner observer, which can support us in discernment rather than continue making unconscious choices and repeating unfulfilling patterns.
As humanity wakes up one by one and develops an inner observer, we are much more apt to learn how to move about the world with authenticity and be able to make choices that do no harm. We’ll also understand that everyone has the power within herself or himself to find peace and love. We will find ways to help each other find the strength and power to take responsibility for our lives.
It is through our observer that we know how to distinguish the difference between what is inferred in each of these two quotes. We are enabled to bring more love and light into our world. Trusting our feelings leads us to self-honesty and awakens our observer. This supports us in taking authentic action.
We become examples of living our divine purpose, and can help to empower others along the way. We then live in heart-mind balance.
I wish to thank you again, dear one, for bringing attention to the above-mentioned quotes. You have helped in distinguishing the differences between what is stated in each.
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